Mother and Daughter; Plus The Best Friendship in Between

Mama was a widow at her early forties. I was only seven then and being an only child, I think I made the initiative to mature a little faster as Mama raised me single-handedly. I have seen how she has mastered multi-tasking and positivism even it was really hard. She was prayerful, warm-hearted and friendly. Her energy is so beautiful – enough to gain customers that turned into friends who brought few more customers. I grew up selling different kinds of what Filipinos call merienda – banana-que, turon, lumpia, kamote fries, kikiam, fish balls, squid balls, pancit Bato and the famous halo-halo. Mama was a sewer and beautician too. She has too much in her hands but never short of being a mother and friend to me at the same time. 

When she sent me to her mother and sister’s care in Buhi, Camarines Sur, our love for each other deepened. We would exchange mails on ordinary days and special occasions. She would take me with her to our home in Quezon City during summer vacation and she would visit the province during my birthdays and Christmas too. That was our arrangement for three years during my primary school years. She took me back in when I was in 6th grade. That was the only time I asked her (without any regret) why she had to live alone. Her answer made me love her more. It was a sacrifice she bravely faced. Within those years, she has faced failure on her own – I was away to hug her and assure that it is okay and she can try again. Mama was suppose to work overseas (in Hong Kong) but it did not push through for many reasons even after her long wait. She was only able to work overseas when I was already in sophomore year in high school. Her sister who took care of me then came to live with me here in the metro. We were afar from each other for another three years. It was harder but the same years made our mother and daughter relationship stronger.

Our friendship became a hit when she arrived home, I was already in my first year in college. A number of my friends expressed their admiration of how sheis to me as a mother and best friend at the same time. She was even a confidant to some of my friends. Our relationship has evolved many times but it always end up better. Life trials – health-wise, finances, first heartache, college woes and part time job mishaps, made us love and support each other many notch higher. We have grown to respect and condone each other’s shortcomings. I can say that my failures and heartaches did not leave me deep scars because of her positive attitude towards life. She has showered me with great advises and has passed on me optimism, independence and sense of humor. This exactly is why my dedication to my daughters is a lot like hers, she is my role model after all.

                

Mama passed away two months after my younger daughter turned one. Our struggle during her sickness was not at all easy but her heart stopped beating right beside me with a smile in her lips. That was the most hurtful emotion I have felt but it seemed like I can not express it – I had to be stable and strong.

My elder daughter has a lot of memories and stories about Mama. She would normally tell stories to her sister, including the lessons she learned from her grandMama. Now that she is gone, as I watch my kids grow, I have come to discover what she would tell me when I was being stubborn during my younger years — that I will know the feeling when I become a mother myself. True enough, it is difficult for a mother to let go or just let loose the invisible string our children are attached to our heart. Letting go is definitely a hard phase to go through. But I am sure that Mama’s most important though challenging role (her favorite) is being a grandmother. She once told me that my daughters are like my substitute – she instantly became a new mother again. She enjoyed learning new things as she face that new role in this generation. The fact the we were hand-in-hand in both our roles made it more valuable and happier. If we can call and talk to her now in heaven, she would happily express that she would not trade that for any other role. We may have let go of her presence but she is in our hearts forever. My daughters brought so much unexplained joy in our life and I am so glad that Mama experienced that too. It is her birth anniversary today, so, we are sending her our love and many thank yous.

Dear Millennials

Dear Millennials,

We are amazed of your generation’s achievements. We are genuinely happy that many young people like you has proven more than just being stereotypes. You have a vision. You are a dreamer. But then, life is not just about being a dreamer. Something must be done to achieve these so called dreams. Along with the actions needed for such achievements, you have to be protected. Some kind of “assurance and protection” is necessary.

Getting a PruLife VUL is a combination of care, love and responsibility. Be a responsible Millennial, be insured! DO something your future self and family will thank you for. Ask me how.

DO

 

The LIFE That You Want

 

 

We all go through a phase in life where you are wanting something you cannot really name or have a hard time determining what. Then you hear and read words that are not really in the encouragement category and may not really be pointed or thrown at you but affects you so much and breaks your heart a lot more. That confusing feeling that somehow stresses you out because it keeps bothering you day and night. Then this confusion causes depression and then makes you feel that you have become a little crazy that you find yourself crying over the littlest of things. Well, we all are, crazy. At some point, end of last year and early this year, I somehow have gone through this phase. I think I have been coward to go for what I really want for a long time. It doesn’t mean that I opted for something I do not want and something that is not right though. It just came to a point that I came to realize that there is a gap within me – a blank space I needed to fill in with something beautiful maybe. Something happy. Something warm. Something brighter. And that something will sure allow me to go further, fulfill dreams and help me a lot to become the better version of what I opted to do and be at the past and of course, be the best version of me for the future. And at the end of it all, this big step I took is not really about me after all… but for the people I love most. We are all like plants that needed water and sunlight to be at our best and give either fruit or flowers to the people around us. Sometimes you (the plant) can even give both flowers and fruits, and even more.

I came to realize that this quote/phrase from Eckhart Tolle  I have read sometime ago is indeed true. I would like to share it with you too.

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There are times that stress is also cause by not “wanting to be there” but also by over thinking. By being so negative by some thing or someone new to you even if you have not given it a try or chance to prove its worth.

LIFE is a battle for some, a game of gamble for some and even like a wheel of fortune for others. No matter how you look at it, no matter how you go with the flow, no matter how take it…we all are going for the life that we want.

 

 

*credits to the image owner

 

5 Day Gratitude Challenge

I was tagged by a dear friend, Joy of  JoyRide and so I decided to create a 2-in-1 post at first. To not lose the momentum, I guess.

Sept. 14, I am grateful for..

– the person who found Nhald’s wallet. Our faith in humanity is still there because of him/them.
– the ability to recognize something good out of an obvious mistake. We got the chance to go out together as partners, it was quite an adventure.
– the simple fact that my kids’ have the ability to take care of each other while Mom & Dad is out.

Sept. 15. I am grateful for…

– an additional rest day for the kids and that Malacañang initiated the suspension of classes as early as last night because of thypoon Luis.
– my awesome clients for the trust they have given me.
– Keanna’s achievement for the 1st grading period.

I have this posted in my Facebook account but since we are promoting something really good here, it is best to share it in public too. So, if you were tagged by a friend, be it on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook or through blogs and other social media websites, go ahead and join in. You will be surprised as to how much there is to really be thankful for instead of wasting our time with all the what-if’s and I should have’s.

Have a great day everyone!

Be Moved By Miracle in Cell No.7 Movie

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My friend Pia recommended this movie to me when she tagged me in her Facebook status sometime last week. In her stat, she has declared how she has been touched by the movie that she had to suffer from a headache after crying (because of the movie).

From then, I searched for info and photos of Miracle in Cell No.7 and honestly got a lot more curious. Since last week was the Holy Week, I grabbed the opportunity to work for additional hours. We stayed at home and only until Sunday did we went out and attended the “Salubong” and Easter Sunday mass. I forgot about the movie already. My kids and I (while working) watched previous seasons of Amazing Race and also the pilot episode of The Bible. And then, I saw another good review of the movie Miracle in Cell No.7 which reminded me to look for a good link, so we can watch it online. I did found one and we watched the movie last night, at last!

Miracle in Cell No.7, if you will search through Wiki and IMDb is South Korean film which is a mix of comedy and melodrama. It is a story of a witty and adorable 6 year old girl and her mentally challenged father. The loving father who was wrongfully accused of abduction, sexual abuse and murder. It is a beautiful story of a father who will do everything to give his daughter the best he can (even given with challenges). A (real life) story of how people, in their words and in their acts can change and give another person’s life a twist. Bad and good, I should say. It is a sad story of how power and education (can I please include politics) can do great to someone’s life but can also ruin it – totally screw it!

The movie, Miracle in Cell No.7 is yet another movie a lot of us can not forget. We may have seen things in it in different perspectives but each of these views have touched our hearts and taught our minds. In the end, family is not just about blood. True friends are family too. The movie also reminded me that sometimes the little things have the biggest impacts in our lives.

This movie, by the way, is the 3rd most viewed Korean film. We highly recommend for you to also watch Miracle in Cell No.7 and better ready your tissues or handkerchief with you. No one is ever hard not to be moved by the movie.

The Beautiful Cup

We all have complaints every now and then.

cupsBut then, there are moments you realize it on your own (or with a help of a loved one or a friend) that good things always outweigh the bad. That is when we realize that blessings are all over us, in different forms and sizes, senses and uses. And just like cups, we have to let the beauty of these blessings come out. So, we can share and be a blessing to another.

And at the end of the day, everything just proves that GOD is so amazing!

 

 

 

*Photo from Pinterest

Inspiring Words to Share

 

When I was little, you’ll find me doodling and reading more than I am in front of the computer now. Besides the fact that I love drawing, we did not really have a computer yet then. Ha! Ha!

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Kidding aside, here are some words to inspire us this time of the year. I know for a fact that a lot of us are on “vacation” right now, enjoying. But there are still a lot of us too, that is taking the time to do a little soul searching and some others repent their sins in many simple and complex ways they can. but however we spend our Holy Week, these words would sure remind us of something about us and much more, about life.

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Humility, bravery, love, trust, family values, peace, friendship and positivism are just some of what we, as humans, should really incorporate within ourselves. It may be a little hard but with open-mindedness and HIS guidance, we will be who we want to be and should be, we will get to where we belong and we should be – slowly but surely.

Mena Yangzie

 

* images from Pinterest & QuotedDiary