Learning A Lot From That Shout Out

K: (Happy in her fan state of mind) “Ni-like ni Jameson yung banner na gawa ko.”
Me: “Talaga? Maganda iyong may drawing mo as background.”

At almost 16, I’m sure nasabi nya sa sarili nya na parang tama naman pala itong pinili kong track. Na-inspire akong pagbutihin.

Next day…
I had to hug her tight and wipe her tears. I gave her back all the assurance, confidence and love na somehow, were taken away from her in an instant. A number of you started blaming her, calling her selfish, cancer, peenoise and asking her to change her mindset.

Ha? Teka lang po sa inyong lahat.

1. If it was me (freelancer state of mind), I would have asked for movie tickets aside from the shout out. But then, it wasn’t me.

* A little bit of info:
I freelance too, though not in the art & design field. But I have colleagues and relatives that are artists and designers. My daughter knows the importance of getting paid for the services you give. Trust me, she witnessed how hard it is to get a job online, especially nowadays. Hindi lang sa specific na industry ito nangyayari.

2. If K asked for a payment na baka para sa iba ay sobra naman for the basic banner made using Canva app, maba-bash pa rin sya, right? Baka sabihan pa rin sya na “kahihiyan sa industriya”, “mayabang na wala pang napapatunayan”, or “kapal ng mukha na maningil, Canva lang ginamit.”

3. If I did tell my daughter of no.1, knowing her, she would give me an “AHA! moment look” that means, “Oo nga ‘no? Pero, kakatapos lang kasi ng birthday nya. Gift ko na ‘yun. Masaya na nga ako nung ni-like nya, lalo nung napili nya yung isa. Kung gamitin nya yung banner, parang birthday gift na din ‘yun sa akin. Bonus na lang yung shout out, nothing bad with it.”

4. There is a Twitter feature called “Direct Message”, you all know that. Kung ano-ano nang nasabi ng marami, why? Do you actually know what happened behind the public tweets? Do you know what transpired through direct messaging?

Having given you all these points, I don’t get the point of these people na magagaling calling my daughter a cancer in the art industry. She only responded to a tweet with kindness. And to that person na tila kinuwestyon kung bakit proud pa yung Mom ng artist, I really wish you become a parent yourself, then you will understand.

As for Jameson Blake, correcting him properly is enough. He apologized already. Stop the hate. Stop the ugly memes. Those who used their time, talent and effort making these memes to make fun of Jameson Blake – his mistake has earned you likes and followers. Happy now?

We all had moments of “That is not what I meant” and “I did not mean to offend you”. If there is someone out there who did not or have not experienced these moments, it is about time to log off and take time to self-evaluate. How is your relationship with everyone around you going? Maybe it is time to really connect and communicate, openly and calmly. Then through that way of expression and evaluation, I am sure there will be so much realization. I hope each of it is beautiful. Let me borrow that ripple-effect mentioned at the heat of the argument, it does come in… if you fill your heart with positiveness, the same people around you smile and get that vibe you bring. I tell you, it will surely grow and go back at you. We all just got to learn to listen, and understand… if needed, then respond, with kindness.

Janine Berdin; A Genuine Star of this Generation

Young and talented Janine Berdin is a semi-finalist for the 4th quarter of Tawag Ng Tanghalan in It’s Showtime. She instantly got my attention and admiration the first time I saw and heard her sang during the daily round. Her talent and X factor made me say: “this girl will make it to the semis and even to the finals.” I even got the same feeling I had when I saw Sarah Geronimo, Charice Pempengco (now Jake Zyrus) and KZ Tandingan perform years ago in their respective singing contest performances. Janine Berdin will definitely go a long way. It is evident as all her performances get standing ovation from the judges, gives viewers the goosebumps and make us teary-eyed, clap and exclaim “hanep, ang galing!”

Besides all the praises she get every after her performances, Janine remains kid-like and humble. I saw her Facebook account and started following her even before the semis and found out that she is actively mingling with fans and keeps them, us updated via Facebook Live too. I once commented while she’s doing FB Live and she actually read my message. I decided to send another message/comment few minutes before she ended the video and she once again got to read it. The last comment was actually for my daughter Keanna, they are born the same year. So, Keanna was all smiles when the Janine Berdin greeted her as she end her live update.

If you have not seen her performances in YouTube, let me share it here. These are the ones I consider my favorites of her performances since she joined Tawag ng Tanghalan. I only have 4 videos here but who knows, her performance today might be included in my fave list.

‘MAGASIN’, her first performance at the show:

Janine rocked the stage with her rendition of Eraserheads’ ‘Ang Huling El Bimbo’ for Semis Day 3 (Awit ni Idol theme):

Her Semis Day 4 got a standing ovation from the judges with her rendition of Yano’s ‘Banal Na Aso'(Judges pick theme):

Semis Day 5 performance was Kamikazee’s ‘Narda'(OPM theme), this has left Ogie Alcasid teary-eyed:

With her awesome and obvious talent, Janine Berdin is indeed a genuine talent in this generation. She has made her mark in the industry already, even if she has not won yet. Her talent is just oozing and it is as if it keeps on growing every time she performs. I really wish she make it to the finals. We are voting for her, actually. Go girl!

Mother and Daughter; Plus The Best Friendship in Between

Mama was a widow at her early forties. I was only seven then and being an only child, I think I made the initiative to mature a little faster as Mama raised me single-handedly. I have seen how she has mastered multi-tasking and positivism even it was really hard. She was prayerful, warm-hearted and friendly. Her energy is so beautiful – enough to gain customers that turned into friends who brought few more customers. I grew up selling different kinds of what Filipinos call merienda – banana-que, turon, lumpia, kamote fries, kikiam, fish balls, squid balls, pancit Bato and the famous halo-halo. Mama was a sewer and beautician too. She has too much in her hands but never short of being a mother and friend to me at the same time. 

When she sent me to her mother and sister’s care in Buhi, Camarines Sur, our love for each other deepened. We would exchange mails on ordinary days and special occasions. She would take me with her to our home in Quezon City during summer vacation and she would visit the province during my birthdays and Christmas too. That was our arrangement for three years during my primary school years. She took me back in when I was in 6th grade. That was the only time I asked her (without any regret) why she had to live alone. Her answer made me love her more. It was a sacrifice she bravely faced. Within those years, she has faced failure on her own – I was away to hug her and assure that it is okay and she can try again. Mama was suppose to work overseas (in Hong Kong) but it did not push through for many reasons even after her long wait. She was only able to work overseas when I was already in sophomore year in high school. Her sister who took care of me then came to live with me here in the metro. We were afar from each other for another three years. It was harder but the same years made our mother and daughter relationship stronger.

Our friendship became a hit when she arrived home, I was already in my first year in college. A number of my friends expressed their admiration of how sheis to me as a mother and best friend at the same time. She was even a confidant to some of my friends. Our relationship has evolved many times but it always end up better. Life trials – health-wise, finances, first heartache, college woes and part time job mishaps, made us love and support each other many notch higher. We have grown to respect and condone each other’s shortcomings. I can say that my failures and heartaches did not leave me deep scars because of her positive attitude towards life. She has showered me with great advises and has passed on me optimism, independence and sense of humor. This exactly is why my dedication to my daughters is a lot like hers, she is my role model after all.

                

Mama passed away two months after my younger daughter turned one. Our struggle during her sickness was not at all easy but her heart stopped beating right beside me with a smile in her lips. That was the most hurtful emotion I have felt but it seemed like I can not express it – I had to be stable and strong.

My elder daughter has a lot of memories and stories about Mama. She would normally tell stories to her sister, including the lessons she learned from her grandMama. Now that she is gone, as I watch my kids grow, I have come to discover what she would tell me when I was being stubborn during my younger years — that I will know the feeling when I become a mother myself. True enough, it is difficult for a mother to let go or just let loose the invisible string our children are attached to our heart. Letting go is definitely a hard phase to go through. But I am sure that Mama’s most important though challenging role (her favorite) is being a grandmother. She once told me that my daughters are like my substitute – she instantly became a new mother again. She enjoyed learning new things as she face that new role in this generation. The fact the we were hand-in-hand in both our roles made it more valuable and happier. If we can call and talk to her now in heaven, she would happily express that she would not trade that for any other role. We may have let go of her presence but she is in our hearts forever. My daughters brought so much unexplained joy in our life and I am so glad that Mama experienced that too. It is her birth anniversary today, so, we are sending her our love and many thank yous.

Calel’s Wacky Art Shirts: Spreading Autism Awareness, 1 Shirt at a Time

Autism is commonly heard, however, there are several speculations about Autism and of the people affected by it. In the Philippines, it is estimated that there are around 1 million people living with Autism, yet not everybody can understand what it it’s like. The Autism Spectrum Disorder is a condition where a person who is diagnosed with it will not have the same experiences but are noticed by the core symptoms.

Meet Calel, he is a 6-year old who was diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) at the age of four. A year ago, he discovered his love for animals and drawing and once he starts on a sketch pad he just cannot stop – his mother Marie, started posting his artwork on Facebook, when a friend commented that if in the case the drawing is produced to be printed on a t-shirt – he definitely would buy. After a few months, Marie launched Calel’s Wacky Art Shirts for 3 reasons: to help with Calel’s therapy needs, to develop the business to eventually be taken over by Calel (when he gets older) and to spread Autism awareness.

Occupational and Speech therapy is costly. Also, there are limited specialists in the Philippines. Kids with ASD need to attend SPED (Special Education) classes which can cost up to Php60,000 a year. For every shirt purchased, this will help Calel’s parents to make sure he gets the special treatments he needs.Calel’s future is still unclear at the age of 6, he shows signs of progress but it is hard to tell if he will be able to live a normal life or yet alone become employed. If Calel’s Wacky Art Shirts becomes a success, this may become his own business to handle. With the first batch of t-shirts printed and distributed, people that ordered have started to ask about Calel and his condition. This helped Marie talk about Autism and educate people on what their family experience day-to-day including the highs and lows.There are so many designs to choose from Calel’s Wacky Art Shirts and each is unique which you will surely love. T-shirt’s come in kids, men and women’s sizes.
Calel’s Wacky Art Shirts are being offered at introductory prizes for the first 100 customers. Please visit their Instagram account for updates and designs: calelswackyartshirts
You may help Calel by purchasing a shirt through their Shopee account: mamaneesshop
They are also accepting donations for art materials like sketch pads, crayons, colored pencils and pens.

Miss Intercontinental 2017 1st Runner-up, Katarina Sonja Rodriguez

Katarina Sonja Rodriguez is a stunning 24 year old athlete-turned-model-turned-beauty queen. She finished Philosophy and Business Administration at the De La Salle University. Fans loved her when she represented the Philippines alongside Jodilly Pendre in the second season of Asia’s Next Top Model. She was a runner-up in the said reality show.

In an interview, she mentioned that she has decided to join Bb. Pilipinas as fans and friends would always ask her to enter the pageant world. It was a little later when she realized that she too has gained interest in it and realized that it could be a platform where she can campaign and continue on her advocacy in life. She took to her Instagram account the said advocacy on being healthy and fit which also pushes the #SaveSexy campaign that promotes HIV/AIDS awareness. She once said that “My family has taught me to work hard and well for everything I want and need, and once you have excess, they’d say, you extend a helping hand to those who have less. I have worked hard to have enough for myself and a little more to give back.”

After having been crowned as 2017 Bb. Pilipinas Intercontinental, Katarina had to clear the confusion that she is not accepting her crown. She had asked the public to stop making assumptions and said it is not true and that she is sleeping with her Bb. Pilipinas Intercontinental crown. For which has led her to excelling in her training up to her representing the Philippines in the recently concluded Miss Intercontinental which was held at the SUNRISE Garden Beach Resort in Hurghada, Egypt.

Pilipinas! Alam ko na nahihirapan tayo sa pagboto para sa akin pero huwag po sana kayong mawalan ng pag-asa sa akin at sa Miss Intercontinental organization. Naniniwala ako na kung tayo ay magkakaisa sa panalangin sa ating Panginoon, maiuuwi natin ang minimithing panalo na ang rason kung bakit ako nandito para makuha ang korona ng Miss Intercontinental. Alam ko po na maraming nagnanais bumoto para sa akin ngunit nahihirapan dahil hindi makaboto pero lagi po nating tatandaan na sa pananalig natin sa Papa Jesus, kahit gaano man ka-negatibo ang ating nararamdaman, malalampasan natin ito at mapagtagumpayan. Sama-sama po tayong magdasal at gagawin ko lahat ng aking makakaya para makuha ang korona para sa inyo, para sa ating bansa at para kay God. Marami pong salamat sa inyong walang sawang suporta at pagmamahal at sana manatili po tayong positibo. Sa lahat po ng natatanggap kong suporta sa inyo aking mga kababayan, MARAMING SALAMAT PO. ?????? Philippines! I know that the voting has not been working and for me specifically, but please do not give up hope on me or Miss Intercontinental. Instead just pray to Papa Jesus that I win what I came here for, the crown. I know everyone wants to vote and is frustrated that they cannot vote, but let us remember by grace through faith and that being negative no matter how heavy a feeling we have will help us triumph. Please pray with me and I will do my best here to perform for you, our country and God. Thank you so much for your passion, but let us keep positive. With all the gratitude in this universe, thank you. ?? ??? #MissIntercontinental #MissIntercontinental2017 #MIO2017 #TheMostBeautifulWomenOfAllContinents #Egypt #SUNRISEResorts #SUNRISECrystalBay #SUNRISEMeetsBeauty #KatareynaMIO2017

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During the pageant’s finals night, Katarina Rodriguez was declared as Miss Intercontinental Asia and Oceania as she placed third in the online voting of the pageant. So, her plea for support in the photo above that she posted in Instagram resulted positively.


During the Q&A, Katarina was asked as to what is the most important thing she learned in joining Miss Intercontinental. Her answer was “The most important thing that I have learned in joining Miss Intercontinental is an Arabic word named after one of the Sunrise Resorts and that is Meraki. It means to do all things with passion, soul, and creativity. When I heard this word and its definition, it resonated with me until now and I think it will for the rest of my life. Therefore, that is the most important thing I learned while participating at Miss Intercontinental. That is to do all things with soul, passion, and creativity.”

Here is the EXACT moment where I turned FULLY into a woman. Congratulations to Miss Mexico @veritosalasvallejo the new Miss Intercontinental 2017! You are a vision, truly. I came to Egypt for one thing and one thing only: the Miss Intercontinental crown. This crown to me represented my becoming a real woman. Myself, and DOZENS of people behind me dedicated so much time and effort to ensure I would win. I cannot say I would have done anything differently because I was very aware from the moment I stepped into the NAIA airport of every action and word I produced. I can tell you that after rewatching the coronation last night I can confidently say I was FLAWLESS. Never had I been more ready for anything in my life. I had hundreds of thousands of people right behind me and each of you were the gas to my fire. It was not about me anymore it was about YOU. Here is the thing though, a queen does not necessarily have to be flawless. The Intercontinental crown did fall off Miss Mexico’s head when she was crowned and YES, I did have to pick it up and hand it to her. How could I not say it was such a painful thing for me to do? But when giving the crown to her I swear to you there was this energy that went through her and straight to me and this is where I knew I am no longer a child but a woman. Seeing her beautiful face while handing it back to her, well, I felt PROUD for her, and no pain at all. It was the lightest feeling I have felt in weeks. That crown was never mine and somehow always her’s. I don’t want to read any comments talking superstitions or anything hurtful especially from my Filipinos. Vero is a queen and she is MY queen, MY Miss Intercontinental 2017. She is a sweetheart and very much deserving. She taught me grace by her energy and warmth in a matter of seconds and only a true queen could empower another woman in such a manner. Let us keep that grace Philippines, for this is only the beginning. Viva Mexico, Viva Pilipinas. ?????

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Katarina gracefully accepted ending the pageant as 1st runner-up. I personally think that the experiences, friendships and learning she gained by representing the Philippines has changed her and in her words, she “turned FULLY into a woman”. She actually has a beautiful message of love and congratulations she also posted in her Instagram account for the newly crowned Miss Intercontinental Veronica Salas Vallejo of Mexico.

We can definitely say that Katarina Rodriguez has represented our country so well and although we all wanted her to take home the crown and be the first Filipina to win the title, she is still a queen.

Labs Kita, Okey Ka Lang: Hit with the Millennials

Late last Sunday night, the digitally restored version of one of the most memorable Pinoy hugot movies was aired. Both my girls know Jolina Magdangal as the Momshie they get to see hosting Magandang Buhay on weekday mornings and that made them a lot more interested with the movie. Again, it was aired past midnight already so I only allowed them to see the first few scenes. But does not include this scene recorded by my elder daughter’s friend…

Bujoy: Yes kaibigan mo ko … kaibigan mo LANG ako! And that’s all I ever was to you Ned – your best friend. Takbuhan mo kapag may problema ka. Taga sunod, taga bigay ng advice, taga enroll… taga-gawa ng assignment. Taga pagpatawa sa iyo kapag nalulungkot ka, taga-tanggap ng kahit na ano. And I’m so stupid for making the biggest mistake of falling in love with my best friend! Dahil kahit kailan hindi mo naman ako makikita eh. Kahit kailan hindi mo ako kayang mahalin na higit pa sa isang kaibigan.”

Ned: “Bujoy … Bujoy..”

Bujoy: Ngayong alam mo na, I think you can get out of my life!”

Ned: Bujoy, mahal kita! Mahal kita Bujoy! Mahal na mahal kita kaya siguro duwag ako. Kung magka-relasyon tayo, paano kung masaktan kita? Baka yung Bujoy na kaibigan ko mawala pa. Bujoy, hindi ko kayang mawala ka sa buhay ko.”

Apparently, it was not just my daughters who actually wanted to stay up that late to see the movie. Jolina and Marvin’s movie was a hit during our teenage years in 1998 and it is still because of the relatable story. Bujoy (Jolina Magdangal) and Ned (Marvin Agustin) are childhood best friends who really treated each other like a family. It was only until they started to date other people when Ned realized he loves Bujoy who has long kept her love for her childhood friend. The realization then led to that particular scene above.

Millennials were shookt! Those who were “Friendzoned” sometime in their lives, especially! A lot were able to relate their own stories to other scenes too if not this one. Famous lines, photos and video clips from the movie has somehow trended in Twitter and on Instagram. Someone from IG even said: “2018 na pero yung kilig feels 1998 pa rin.” Instagram user “fkwlf2_ (I honestly like this best) posted a photo of a scene and captioned:

“Yung feeling na isang linggo ko itong inabangan and yes natapos ko siya and worth it! Huhuhu Nakakakilig na nakakaiyak, worth it ang puyat. Worth to watch! Yung hihilingin mo na lang na sana nabuhay ka na sa panahon na yan. Sheemmmsss yung walang internet walang gadgets, yung aamin yung crush mo sayo ng harapan at hindi sa messenger. Pinakadabest na panahon to para sa akin kahit di pa ko buhay niyan at thank God napanuod ko itong napakagandang movie na ito at feeling ko tuloy batang 90s ako. Sarap ulit ulitin!!”

And a lot others expressed their hopes for a sequel. Perhaps what happened after 20 years?

*video credit: eveanecy

Build Your Business; An Exclusive with Chinkee Tan

If you’re a college graduate (any course) and a purpose driven individual who wants a business that:

 gives you an additional source of income

 allows you to continuously learn, grow and help people
 lets you SEE THE WORLD FOR FREE
 doesn’t restrict you to do the things that you want
 lets you enjoy the FLEXIBILITY OF TIME that you so deserve

Then, join our business forum on JULY 20, 2017 at the Dusit Thani Hotel. Discover how you can maximize your potentials and how great it is to be part of a winning team.

Light dinner is on us. Message me to reserve a slot.


Jackie’s Food Hub

I’m all support for a dear friend’s business venture. I have seen how she has diligently planned for this to come true.

People from the North, let me inform you that Jackie’s Food Hub has opened its first 2 food carts at Howmart Road, Brgy. Apolonio Samson. My friend Yang and her partner had their dreams slowly turn to reality.

Jackie’s Food Hub offers Sisig, Lechon Kawali and Nachos for only Php50. Japanese siomai and pork siomai is also available at a very affordable price. Yang also offers her very own, home-made condiments such as shrimp paste, Chili paste, Garlic oil, Ginger oil, Pickled chili, and Pinakurat (Spiced Vinegar). All these products and her biz itself is of course, DTI registered.

Pork Sisig and Nachos was a hit at yesterday’s launch. Soon, few more food cart “branches” will open in the nearby areas.

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I am but a proud friend. Who would not keep going if your mere presence is much appreciated by her very own granddaughter, Mica? Mica has always been Yang’s inspiration and so as her blessing. I am sure Yang will succeed in this business venture.

Dear Millennials

Dear Millennials,

We are amazed of your generation’s achievements. We are genuinely happy that many young people like you has proven more than just being stereotypes. You have a vision. You are a dreamer. But then, life is not just about being a dreamer. Something must be done to achieve these so called dreams. Along with the actions needed for such achievements, you have to be protected. Some kind of “assurance and protection” is necessary.

Getting a PruLife VUL is a combination of care, love and responsibility. Be a responsible Millennial, be insured! DO something your future self and family will thank you for. Ask me how.

DO

 

5 Day Gratitude Challenge

I was tagged by a dear friend, Joy of  JoyRide and so I decided to create a 2-in-1 post at first. To not lose the momentum, I guess.

Sept. 14, I am grateful for..

– the person who found Nhald’s wallet. Our faith in humanity is still there because of him/them.
– the ability to recognize something good out of an obvious mistake. We got the chance to go out together as partners, it was quite an adventure.
– the simple fact that my kids’ have the ability to take care of each other while Mom & Dad is out.

Sept. 15. I am grateful for…

– an additional rest day for the kids and that Malacañang initiated the suspension of classes as early as last night because of thypoon Luis.
– my awesome clients for the trust they have given me.
– Keanna’s achievement for the 1st grading period.

I have this posted in my Facebook account but since we are promoting something really good here, it is best to share it in public too. So, if you were tagged by a friend, be it on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook or through blogs and other social media websites, go ahead and join in. You will be surprised as to how much there is to really be thankful for instead of wasting our time with all the what-if’s and I should have’s.

Have a great day everyone!