Mother and Daughter; Plus The Best Friendship in Between

Mama was a widow at her early forties. I was only seven then and being an only child, I think I made the initiative to mature a little faster as Mama raised me single-handedly. I have seen how she has mastered multi-tasking and positivism even it was really hard. She was prayerful, warm-hearted and friendly. Her energy is so beautiful – enough to gain customers that turned into friends who brought few more customers. I grew up selling different kinds of what Filipinos call merienda – banana-que, turon, lumpia, kamote fries, kikiam, fish balls, squid balls, pancit Bato and the famous halo-halo. Mama was a sewer and beautician too. She has too much in her hands but never short of being a mother and friend to me at the same time. 

When she sent me to her mother and sister’s care in Buhi, Camarines Sur, our love for each other deepened. We would exchange mails on ordinary days and special occasions. She would take me with her to our home in Quezon City during summer vacation and she would visit the province during my birthdays and Christmas too. That was our arrangement for three years during my primary school years. She took me back in when I was in 6th grade. That was the only time I asked her (without any regret) why she had to live alone. Her answer made me love her more. It was a sacrifice she bravely faced. Within those years, she has faced failure on her own – I was away to hug her and assure that it is okay and she can try again. Mama was suppose to work overseas (in Hong Kong) but it did not push through for many reasons even after her long wait. She was only able to work overseas when I was already in sophomore year in high school. Her sister who took care of me then came to live with me here in the metro. We were afar from each other for another three years. It was harder but the same years made our mother and daughter relationship stronger.

Our friendship became a hit when she arrived home, I was already in my first year in college. A number of my friends expressed their admiration of how sheis to me as a mother and best friend at the same time. She was even a confidant to some of my friends. Our relationship has evolved many times but it always end up better. Life trials – health-wise, finances, first heartache, college woes and part time job mishaps, made us love and support each other many notch higher. We have grown to respect and condone each other’s shortcomings. I can say that my failures and heartaches did not leave me deep scars because of her positive attitude towards life. She has showered me with great advises and has passed on me optimism, independence and sense of humor. This exactly is why my dedication to my daughters is a lot like hers, she is my role model after all.

                

Mama passed away two months after my younger daughter turned one. Our struggle during her sickness was not at all easy but her heart stopped beating right beside me with a smile in her lips. That was the most hurtful emotion I have felt but it seemed like I can not express it – I had to be stable and strong.

My elder daughter has a lot of memories and stories about Mama. She would normally tell stories to her sister, including the lessons she learned from her grandMama. Now that she is gone, as I watch my kids grow, I have come to discover what she would tell me when I was being stubborn during my younger years — that I will know the feeling when I become a mother myself. True enough, it is difficult for a mother to let go or just let loose the invisible string our children are attached to our heart. Letting go is definitely a hard phase to go through. But I am sure that Mama’s most important though challenging role (her favorite) is being a grandmother. She once told me that my daughters are like my substitute – she instantly became a new mother again. She enjoyed learning new things as she face that new role in this generation. The fact the we were hand-in-hand in both our roles made it more valuable and happier. If we can call and talk to her now in heaven, she would happily express that she would not trade that for any other role. We may have let go of her presence but she is in our hearts forever. My daughters brought so much unexplained joy in our life and I am so glad that Mama experienced that too. It is her birth anniversary today, so, we are sending her our love and many thank yous.

Daughter’s Love of Arts and BTS

My daughter K, @heyitskea on Instagram, installed AutoDesk Sketchbook and made herself busy with a few small artworks.

           

This one below took her a week if I’m not mistaken. She is a fan of BTS (Bangtan Sonyeondan or Bulletproof Boy Scouts), specifically Kim Taehyung a.k.a. V. She must have thought of challenging herself to try a little more complicated image, thus chose this one. I just had to take a screenshot of both the reference and her accomplishment. Along the way, she got worried saying she can not do the teeth and hair parts as they seem too difficult. There was even an outline at first, but I had to ask her try without it instead to add to the already significant difficulty.

Also, I had to tell her that it is indeed difficult as she is obviously a beginner. It will go easy along the way. The “keep trying” and “never give up” advises worked for her. This was a chance for me to remind our daughter that “All things are difficult before they become easy.” And nothing will ever be accomplished if you just keep telling yourself that the situation or task is hard, you gotta face that fear, start and keep going to achieve success.

She posted her finished artworks in her Instagram account @heyitskea_. As a Mom, I can not help but be proud of her.  Oh! By the way, she made this using her mobile phone, no stylus used, just her bare fingers. With the satisfied look on her face after posting her “Taehyung” artwork, I know that she will be creating a few more, more of BTS. She has received email messages and direct messages too expressing their admiration of her works.

Her love of drawing and designing has made her decide to take Arts and Design Track, Visual Arts strand in Senior High. She even has another mobile phone app installed called Design Home (Crowdstar Inc) and I guess it helps her learn more about interior designing and sharpen her skills too. She has not completely decided yet if she will push for Architecture or Interior Design in college, and it may still change as she face the fun and challenges of senior high. For us her parents, she has our support and guidance – to anything that would make her happy and give her the feeling of fulfillment – all the way.

 

Our Super Blue Blood Moon Experience

Imagine the excitement of people world wide as they have anticipated this unusual phenomenon; A Super moon, Blue moon and a total lunar eclipse rolled into one – the Super Blue Blood Moon.

A Super moon is said to be a full moon which has a closer distance to the Earth’s orbit which makes it appear a LOT larger. And since it is closer to the Earth, it illuminates brighter. The Blue moon on the other hand refers to the “second” full moon of the month.

When I learned from the news about this Super Blue Blood Moon phenomena, I decided to let the girls experience witnessing it a little special. I know our phones would definitely not give us the best capture of the moon, so a telescope viewing would be perfect. Glad that I have searched for places where we can have it experienced – see the moon a lot closer than from the Earth’s ground. Roey and I went to SM City North EDSA and met up K there. We arrived exactly when K’s class is dismissed. We saw the full moon, yes, but there was not much happening yet and so we decided to eat dinner at the Burger King first. And as soon as we are done, we joined the people at the Sky Gardens as they have formed lines and took turns in using several telescopes brought and set up by student volunteers from different universities in Metro Manila.

People exclaimed their delights as the eclipse started happening. We were then almost at the half of the line. K and I kept clicking our phone cameras to get a good shot we can compile and keep as remembrance of the event and, of course, our bonding. Roey too used her phone (that she only uses for Minecraft) to take photos of the moon – even if it has a very low quality, and gladly shared it to her classmates (using my phone’s data connection). The photo above is a screenshot of K’s captured images of the moon. The good ones are shots of her OPPO A71 phone through the telescope and the others are of the same phone directly from where we stood while waiting for our turn. I, too had few shots which one I have shared in my Instagram account already.

This is our photo as the lunar eclipse happened and as we finished our turn at the free telescope viewing. I am but glad to have experienced this with my girls. We all learned a lot too – about the phenomena, and about patience. Since their Dad is still on his way home from work, all we can do is relay to him our experience and how beautiful the moon was through the telescope. We had to meet him at the Trinoma past 9pm when the moon has fully changed its color. That, he got to witness.

Source: Wikipedia (Totality from California)

This photo clearly shows how the moon looked like last night as the Super Blue Blood Moon happened. And there were many other beautiful and captivating shots of the Super Blue Blood Moon all over the internet, from different parts of the world and in different social media platforms.

Disciplined Saving for the Future Starts Now

One great mistake that individuals can make is to delay on beginning an investment fund. This is most pertinent to young people who depend on their folks for monetary help. Mostly Millennials who are keeping up with the Y.O.L.O. attitude. Indeed, even the individuals who are as of now ready to take a shot along the edge do as such to have cash for particular spending needs instead of to have somewhat more cash to spare. We always hear people say that it is best to practice the “save before you spend” attitude. This can be practiced by students too. As soon as they get their allowance from their folks, they would already be able to set aside a little sum for their funds. Through time, the little amount they consistently spare will gather to a greater sum. This definitely take considerable measure of discipline to effectively pull off. These ought to be minor worries that ought to effortlessly be dismissed when the significance of setting up a reserve fund support is realized and achieved.

Little kids can start saving with spare coins. Older kids can already set up a bank savings account and practice saving up on a monthly basis. Cash gifts during birthdays and Christmas could be added to the savings as well. Disciplined savings should start at an early age until such time it turns into a habit…a good one in fact. I often hear my Mom when I was young saying that “Every cent is important as you will never have a hundred if you do not start with a peso.”

Financial needs today and in the future is something of certainty but its availability is not. Time is in favor for the Millennials, so while healthy and able, save for whatever financial need might come… NOW!